HI pilgrim head honcho. Thanks for the reply, which flowed nicely and i could follow and understand it and you even answered one of the q's you previously did not. Now we are cooking! I do agree with much of what you say but:

The whole of your stance seems to stand of fall on your interpretation of 'foreknow' as an 'elect' who God loved and loved God. This does not stand up to scrutiny in my opinion. You point out that God describes man and women becoming one flesh (genesis 2:24) and also describes the same act as 'knew'.You conclude that 'knew ' means thus a deeper love. I completely agree that this insight is correct to link the two but my conclusion is different.Note the way in Genesis 2:24 God had to add the term flesh. I think two can become one spiritually too. (not humans)
I think if God had meant love he would have used love (agape) and not knew. I think it is more literal, I think If God has an 'indwelling relationship of any kind' he says he' Knew' them. (there may well be deeper love involved too btw)

You use Jesus' quote .. 'that I never new you'...mat 7:23.and say that it means he never loved you. Again I think God would use agape if he meant agape. My stance is that Jesus is referring to the fact that he was not born again with an indwelling Christ fits better with the surrounding text which describes the damnation of someone who was not'known' so not born again and so cursed. This is what we would expect.

Acts 17 28 For in him we live, and move, and have our being; as certain also of your own poets have said, For we are also his offspring
Acts seems to be describing man having an existence before Christ's time. A' being' not a thought or concept.There is much evidence to support the view that our spirits were created sometime before the Earth. To save you from scrolling to and from your Bible I have prepared a Small web page, just for you, with all the links and my thinking here. Click on the bible links and they appear as a light box for you. Hold on to your hat.
https://worldsapartbiblically.com/for_head_honcho.html

Once established that God foreknew everybody, then Romans 8 ;27-30 take on a completely different meaning
God foreordained everybody to be changed into the image of Christ, but this predestinaton is not a prophecy but an availability for all but there are some t & c s. You must repent and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. From Romans 8:27-30 text, I see no reason that God predestining us to be conformed into being like Christ is unconditional, but I can see how its availability to all is unconditional. The text says God predestined us to be changed-we have to ok the change. This sound s more like the God I know.

Man can step away form this predestined availability and God confirms this as 'many are called but few are chosen. matt 22 14