Mohler definitely has the authority to speak as he did. Although Pastors may be at the front end through their counseling, that fact does not negate Mohler's position in discussing those issues. As to the argument that it may be hurtful to certain singles, I think that argument is failing to take into account the spiritual maturity of those singles. When Pastors speak of God blessing of children, does that hurt those marrieds who are barren, and shouldn't be said. God's teachings are normative. Just because their are exceptions should not stop Christian leaders from teaching God's truth through His Word.


Is his observations on target? I think so. But, I would not place all the blame on the young men. Throughout their life, parents, the church, and society as a whole have reiterated the importance of them succeeding in a career and obtaining material possessions. Then throw in feminism with young women competing with them for that type of success. In some way men have become feminized in their attitudes in certain areas in life, especially in decision-making within the family.

As a personal note, I'm single. It would be nice to be married. No excuses except for timidity, plus I didn't become a Christian until my early 30s. However, I remember then that some eligible women I did meet made me hesitant in beginning a relationship-toward marriage because of their stating grand plans of getting this degree or some exciting plan of employment or location for their life. It made me hesitant in initiating a relationship because I didn't want to destroy those plans. I just wanted someone to come along with me, not being a cheerleader in their perfect life. I know that in most cases their dreams resembled mine, but why didn't they state it. Anyway, sorry for the personal note but it might shed some importance in this topic.

Last edited by John_C; Tue Aug 10, 2004 7:17 PM.
John Chaney

"having been firmly rooted and now being built up in Him and established in your faith . . ." Colossians 2:7