Pilgrim thanks for your input, I finally got around to reading Does God love the sinner and hate his only his sin? by John H. Gerstner (another great resource from The Highway) He more or less said what you said above.

I think my failure to make the distension between Gods love and His benevolence it what was causing my soreness from straddling the fence. <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/bash.gif" alt="" />