Jacy I am sure many of us here can relate. Although I've not come from a IFB church I had the same type of legalism or if you will pietism shoved down my throat in the guise of "this is what true sanctification looks like" or "real Christians don't: . . . " Old habits are hard to unlearn and we all have the tendency to swing too far to one extreme if we don't have people in our lives that help keep us in check. If your now in a good church which teach the correct view of sanctification learn from them. There is also a large amount of articles on sanctification on the Highway go here and click on the Praxis button scroll down to the articles on Sanctification.

Peter

If you believe what you like in the gospels, and reject what you don't like, it is not the gospel you believe, but yourself. Augustine of Hippo