Tom, I do understand that this is a hard decision. I've had to make those decisions at various times in my life. The risk of losing friends and family members is present in those decisions. I recognized that and while I also want to be liked and to have my family stay with me, I knew that this test of my obedience required my total allegiance to God and to trust in Him for the consequences. There is a cost to following the Lord Jesus Christ and he tells us that we should first count the cost. It is a real cost and it really hurts when people ridicule us and say all manner of nasty things against us. But should we curb our words or water down the truth so that they will accept us? Or should we obey God? I prefer to think the second option would out weigh any desire for friendship with the world.

Husband's who are believers with unbelieving wives or children bear a special responsibility to affirm the truth in all of their actions. Naturally, they cannot force their wives to believe, or go to a faithful church. But they can teach them by example by not attending a church that teaches falsehood. As heads of their family, setting a right example, lovingly and not like a dictator, may be blessed by God to the conversion of their family's souls. 1Cor 7. Who knows? Or they could lose their families. But the believer is called to obey no matter what the cost.

I was going through the devotions and quotation forum and saw this which I thought might encourage you.

“I came not to send peace on earth, but a sword.”—Mat 10:34

"The Christian will be sure to make enemies. It will be one of his objects to make none; but if to do the right, and to believe the true, should cause him to lose every earthly friend, he will count it but a small loss, since his great Friend in heaven will be yet more friendly, and reveal himself to him more graciously than ever. O ye who have taken up his cross, know ye not what your Master said? “I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother; and a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.” Christ is the great Peacemaker; but before peace, he brings war. Where the light cometh, the darkness must retire. Where truth is, the lie must flee; or, if it abideth, there must be a stern conflict, for the truth cannot and will not lower its standard, and the lie must be trodden under foot. If you follow Christ, you shall have all the dogs of the world yelping at your heels. If you would live so as to stand the test of the last tribunal, depend upon it the world will not speak well of you. He who has the friendship of the world is an enemy to God; but if you are true and faithful to the Most High, men will resent your unflinching fidelity, since it is a testimony against their iniquities. Fearless of all consequences, you must do the right. You will need the courage of a lion unhesitatingly to pursue a course which shall turn your best friend into your fiercest foe; but for the love of Jesus you must thus be courageous. For the truth’s sake to hazard reputation and affection, is such a deed that to do it constantly you will need a degree of moral principle which only the Spirit of God can work in you; yet turn not your back like a coward, but play the man. Follow right manfully in your Master’s steps, for he has traversed this rough way before you. Better a brief warfare and eternal rest, than false peace and everlasting torment."
~ C. H. Spurgeon

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