John
I like your answer of the sovereignty of God, I actually was thinking of election. Then I remember my embracing the doctrines of grace, in particular where it comes to Romans chapter 9. Why I mention this is because when was able to fully embrace the doctrine of election, it was because Romans 9 made me realize I was looking at the matter through my own selfish eyes, rather than my sovereign Lord's eyes. In other words ultimately my problem was God's sovereignty, even though I didn't realize it at the time.
Tom