but there's gotta be SOME Biblical principle for it!

This conversation happened this morning as I waited for the bus to work. There's a man in my condo complex that has been divorced and is now remarried. He does claim to be a Christian, although he says his prayer/Bible reading is not as good as he desires, and he wants to go to church, but his new wife won't let him. He desires to get divorced from his current wife because he says it would be better for his spiritual and mental well-being. There is a chance we would visit my church.

Here's what he said happened, and I'm not sure if I buy all this or not. Awhile ago (I think 10 years or so ago), he was married to a wonderful wife and had a wonderful son. However, he got cancer, and he says the chemo messed his mind up. During that time, he started neglecting his marriage, divorced his wife, and remarried. When he got off the chemo and the cancer was cured, he said, he regained his memory and mind back, and realized he was in an awful predicament. He still is "friends" with his former wife, who wants him to get a divorce and come back to her. His current wife is not a believer, and her cussing and callousness disturb him greatly. He says she doesn't open up to him because she used to be married to an abusive man. He gets depressed and basically works and comes home to a wife who doesn't want to do anything with him. He says he does not love his current wife, and yet he does not feel he can go back to his former wife because he has convinced himself that it would not work out and that he doesn't love her like before.

Here is what concerns me:

First, I'm not certain chemo can mess one's mind up so much that it causes one to divorce the one he truly loves, and then marry someone who has values vastly different than his own.

Second, I cannot overlook the fact that I am a young single woman, and he is a man who has divorced and feels like he cannot stay with his current wife nor go back to his former wife. He says he wants to have "friends," but his wife won't let him. I made it clear that I did not want any sort of relationship other than friendship, and he said that being friends was good. I'm stil a little uneasy about it.

Third, I'm not certain whether he is a true or false professor of faith. He says he has a desire for knowing God more deeply and rejoining a church, but, after hearing a testimony by one of my elders last night about his own father, looks can be deceiving. Basically, his father teaches a Sunday-School class for married couples and yet is unwilling to make a public confession of a grave sin in his own marriage. And, if he were a Christian, then how could he get so messed up by chemo, enough to divorce a fine Christian woman and then marry a non-Christian?

Fourth, I wonder at his unwillingness to go back to his former wife. It looks like his current wife would like to divorce him too, so that might fit into the Christian/non-Christian divorce scenario. But would it not be prpoper for him to return to his former wife? He said that she would gladly have him back.

Advice, admonitions, and prayers needed.

True godliness is a sincere feeling which loves God as Father as much as it fears and reverences Him as Lord, embraces His righteousness, and dreads offending Him worse than death~ Calvin