SemperReformanda said:
Here is what concerns me:
First, I'm not certain chemo can mess one's mind up so much that it causes one to divorce the one he truly loves, and then marry someone who has values vastly different than his own.
I don't see that listed in the side effects of chemotherapy. Here's a list of the side effects one might expect.
These include:
Hair loss
Dry mouth
Mouth sores
Difficulty swallowing (esophagitis)
Nausea
Vomiting
Diarrhea
Fatigue
Bleeding
Susceptibility to infection
Less common problems include damage to your heart, liver, lungs, kidneys or nerves. What side effects, if any, you may experience depends on the specific drugs used.
Your doctor makes every effort to minimize side effects, for example, by giving you medications to help block nausea or build up your blood counts, but some effects are likely to occur. In general, the effects of chemotherapy are temporary, and there are ways to reduce them.
Marie writes:
Second, I cannot overlook the fact that I am a young single woman, and he is a man who has divorced and feels like he cannot stay with his current wife nor go back to his former wife. He says he wants to have "friends,".....
This may have been the same line he used to get his second wife. I'd recommend you keep a safe distance from him. <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/flee.gif" alt="" />
Marie writes:
Third, I'm not certain whether he is a true or false professor of faith.
If he's a true believer he wouldn't let his wife keep him back from church attendance. He probably has a lot of regrets for his past choices but in my opinion it sounds like he's looking for your empathy and friendship not your church address.
Marie writes:
Fourth, I wonder at his unwillingness to go back to his former wife. It looks like his current wife would like to divorce him too....
I agree with Robert and John's advice. Refer him to your elder or pastor rather than developing a close friendship. I suspect he'll leave you alone if you get a man involved from your church. Then if he's serious about developing his Bible reading and prayer life he can get encouragement from them. As far as the Bible's view on going back to the first wife it's not an option. Deuteronomy 24:4 and Jeremiah 3:1 tell us the spouse must not take them back again.
Wes
