1. No, he was not out of line.

2. If not, then how could anyone but the pastor rebuke, reprove, exhort, etc. ever?

3. I agree with Mohler. I went to the conference called New Attitude held by Joshua Harris and C.J. Mahaney of Sovereign Grace Ministries, and took a class a few semesters ago taught by Dr. Mohler called Contemporary Issues in Theology and Culture or something like that, in which he taught a lot about modern sexuality, so I have some idea of what Mohler is talking about from what I remember. Basically, our physical human makeup suggests (not so subtly) that we're made to be one flesh with a member of the opposite sex. We are made to take part in the highest covenant and relationship between people there is, besides that which we have now in Christ. There is no biblical category for singleness apart from those few people that are set apart by God to glorify Him in constant service in a way more specialized than in the covenant of marriage and commitment of raising a family. I say "more specialized" rather than "more wholly" because "more wholly" would hint that celibacy is the more holy and godly way of life. It is not. God has made us male and female and marriage is the norm. Mohler says that our culture teaches men to prolong adolescence and put off marriage until we're ready to be "tied down", if ever. He says we have been raising our boys to be grown up boys when we should be raising them to be husbands, even fathers. In Christendom there is no place for even talking about sex without marriage since they are inseparable. I think Mohler just strikes a nerve because of the increasing number of older, single Christians. Mohler says the biblical criteria for being single is whether or not one thinks one can be celibate for life. If not, and one is able to get married, then by all means be obedient to God and get married. Also, if one is not in a position to be married but is not called to celibacy, work towards being in a position to get married. That means, in reference to Mohler's most frequent listeners, quit playing video games and dating casually and obey the Lord. There are many easy ways that boys (and girls) can work toward growing up to be faithful to God in the way he has made us to be. This will be in stark contrast to the warped sexuality of the world. Mohler says both men and women are guilty of the "sin of waiting", but men are more guilty in disregarding their responsibility to be leaders in the church and in the home. There's a lot more I could tell, but I don't remember much and I think I'm rambling. Anyway, I agree with everything Mohler has said on the subject.

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Please pray for me and the other young single guys on the forum. I know my own situation isn't very good. I am a model of exactly what Dr. Mohler is talking about. Pray that everything that is necessary in order for me to be faithful to God in obedience would happen. It's extremely difficult not having had a Christian father, or one at all for that matter. I don't mean pray that I get a wife, but rather, that I start growing up.

Ben