Jesus should have talked with the adulteress woman at the exact time that he did. (I can not do the smiley thing-but a smiley would go here).
I said the line it is a thin line. However, it seems that it is easily seen by others when they look at our situation (what ever that maybe). I have tried to seek the general advice from others that I consider I little wiser than I. For instance, I have been dealing with a woman who just left her husband. We manage to have the appropriate time to talk about her situation, but at the same time I make sure that it never appears more than a helping hand from other people.
Very suddle and simple things often help. For example, I always (and no exceptions allowed) refer to the female sex as Ms. or Mz then their last name. We can still do this down here in the south without sounding too funny.

Is this kind of what you were asking. It you think I was saying do not go to the lost, then I wasnt' very clear. I guess.