Henry,

It appears that all of the issues that need to be addressed pertain to the qualifications of your pastor. Certainly having his household in order is an important one along with faithful preaching. However, have you considered what you might do if the board of the church corrected these matters. Would you still leave? It could be that presenting these concerns to the board might be just what's needed to encourage them to take action. They are probably already aware of some of these things but maybe not as much as you. I wouldn't recommend that you send a letter to the board as you leave the church but rather give them an opportunity to correct this before you leave. If they do not then you may want to leave.

Personally I wouldn't talk about this with other members or friends. I don't think that would be appropriate. The goal is to bring about repentance while keeping general public awareness of the sin to a minimum. Let the officers of the church deal with this matter.

Finally I'd recommend you pray for this man. Rather than just pointing fingers at his flaws maybe you can help him. Maybe you can meet with him privately and discuss these things. He may need help from someone just like you. I'll be praying for you and your family as you work through these issues. May God bless you with wisdom and guide you in your decision.


Wes

When I survey the wondrous cross on which the Prince of Glory died, my richest gain I count but loss and pour contempt on all my pride. - Isaac Watts