Pilgrim
First of all I must state that I accidently used the word `peruse~ rather than "pursue".
I must admit that for someone to be attracted to another of the same sex for the purpose of marriage is lust.
Even by your own example, "attraction" would be "lust", for the man is looking for a woman to marry, surely one cannot disregard or ignore the physiological (sexual) desires that accompany the attraction.
I must admit here I am a little confused. In my mind I am not sure how a man can't be attracted to a woman in order to pursue marriage. While it is true, we should never look upon a woman lustfully. I have been a Christian for about 35 years and every single Christian man who I know (who I have talked about this with), said they became attracted to their future wives in one way or another. Sometimes that attraction was not physical it had more to do with their character.
I am beginning to think the problem has more to do with the word "attraction", than what I am trying to say.
Tom
