Hi all--

thanks so much for your insights and prayers with us in this matter! Now, the update.......

I read and reread many Scriptures, read and reread many commentaries (online and off) that were suggested here and by others, prayed and prayed some more, encouraged my wife to do the same things, and then we had a talk.

It was a good discussion. One result is that she does not want to serve as a deacon, but is going to make a commitment in another area of service. She did, though, leave it to me to call the appropriate person to tell them the news, which I gladly did.

Another result of the conversation is that we are now asking God to help us find another church. (In our area the PCA has become so loaded with older, unreformed Baptists running from contemporary services that it's going to be hard to find a church that rests squarely on the five points, I think.)

By the way, I didn't dismiss the call to "check myself" that came early on in this thread. I needed to hear that, and now have a list of things I want to pray over and meditate upon for quite a while.

So, a happy conclusion to this situation, and a needed renewal of the search for God's will for us. Many thanks for the help, folks!

-Cecil