I'd really like to dig into all of this as deeply as necessary, but I've got to adopt the KISS principle in this (as I'm generally too sleep deprived with our 2 kids to think too deeply about anything): I guess what I'm clinging to is that I'm going to have my son and daughter baptized asap because that ratifies the covenant that exists between God and them as a result of my election (I guess the whole rub is what does "covenant" mean, right?), that I'm going to do everything in my power to raise my son and daughter in righteousness, not taking anything for granted, not presuming upon God's grace, relying as much as I can on Christ's love in my life, taking full advantage of the means of grace in my life, but I'm not going to doubt the slightish inclination toward faith that my son and daughter will have because I know that their faith doesn't have anything to do with them or me, but that it's a gift of God, and their salvation is dependent upon God's sovereign work in their life in any event, and I'll try to be a faithful steward in Christ, but there's no way that I'll be able to ever effect salvation in my children no matter how faithful I am in their upbringing. God is totally sovereign, yet I remain responsible for all of my actions, and I think that ultimately this point is what people can't swallow in all of this. I only get it down my gullet (if at all) by the grace of God. How's that?
I don't want to discount any deeper understanding of this at all, but I just don't have the time to acquire it at this particular time in my life. So no disrespect is intended toward what others write here.
