Robin

I am a Reformed Baptist myself; however I may be in the minority of those who are of Reformed Baptist persuasion.
In that I personally would not have a problem with a Reformed Paedo-Baptist being admitted into member-ship. However, that is provided they agree first that they respected the Church beliefs concerning Credo-Baptism. This to me is important because if they do not agree to this, unity in the body may be compromised.
If I remember correctly John Bunyan (Pilgrims Progress) had similar beliefs.
Basically the reason why I would allow someone like yourself into membership with that one caveat is because I have found that I have more in common with many Reformed Paedo-Baptist like yourself, than I do with Baptists of Arminian persuasion.
Unfortunately like I said earlier, I am probably in the minority with this view, so your discussion with the Baptist pastor could prove to be very valuable.
I actually have a Paedo-Baptist friend who attends the same Church I do. He told me that although he cannot become a member. He is ok with that mainly because he is very happy with the worship, sermons and the way the Church is going.
Tom