Robin
If you view membership as very important, depending on the Reformed Baptist Church you are considering going to, membership may not be an option for you.
This is not always the case, but it is probably the majority position in Reformed Baptist circles that a candidate for membership must be baptized via emersion.
You previously said that seeing you were baptized via emersion years ago, it might not be a problem for you to become a member.
However, if I read you correctly it is more an issue for you.
Therefore, if you think the issue of Paedo is that important, I am not sure you would be happy going to a Reformed Baptist Church.
A few years back I did a fairly lengthily study on this issue and among the study material I read was John Owen on Covenant Theology. What I found quite surprising is that although Owen was definitely a Paedo-Baptist; it seemed to me that on many issues he was more in agreement with Reformed Baptists, than he was on Paedo-Baptists. I can’t think of any examples right off the top of my head (perhaps others might have some?), but I found that to be very interesting.
Another person I read was AW Pink; whom I found to be similar to Owen, yet he came out on the Credo side.
I also read a bit of John Bunyan, who was a Baptist, yet had no problem admitting Paedos into membership; provided their profession of faith was credible.
If there is one thing I regret about that particular study. It is I should have kept better care of all the notes from that study; because I have no idea where they are now. Sigh…
I guess I should end by saying, if you have not already done so, you should be very specific about what you view as essentials when you talk to the pastor of the Reformed Baptist Church in question.
Tom