I think the matter comes down to the two positions concerning the order of the decrees. I tend to hold to the infralapsarian view but there is also the supralapsarian view which holds some merit. I would suggest a study of both to understand the questions you are asking.

However, I must also say that despite the difficulty in answering the exact ordering of decrees, calvinism is still scripturally defensible whereas the arminian/wesleyan/pelagian views are not. The scriptures simply do not answer every intricacy of truth, but it does offer sufficient knowledge of the truth. I still don't see how this disproves calvinism.


God bless,

william